Sometimes the clothes do not make the man...

You know I mean business when I quote George Michael.


I spent about a year and a half working at a company that was creative in nature. We produced magazines, online segments, crafts, recipes, all that good stuff. One of the best things about working in that environment was the almost complete lack of dress code. Oh there WAS a dress code, but it was incredibly relaxed, and most people didn't follow it anyway.

A large office full of creative types employs a wide variety of personalities. Most people drawn to work in that kind of environment take a distinct interest in cultivating a sense of personal style and expression. On any given day, I might see people wearing the following:

• suits and ties
• wrap dresses
• jeans, t-shirts and sneakers
• skinny jeans in every color
• cargo shorts
• high fashion leather leggings
• 5 inch Prada platforms
• and one woman who sometimes dressed like Big Bird.

It was awesome. I was able, once I became comfortable with the idea of going to work in WHATEVER, to start putting together outfits that I actually LIKED (most of the time I take a look in the mirror and think "well, this isn't a crime.")!

Then I left that job, and took a temp job in East Midtown.

Business casual.

Business casual is BULLSHIT, people.

Let's face it, the reason "corporate dress" is a thing is because it is meant to project an image of professionalism (well, all clothes are meant to project an image of SOMETHING). We think that by wearing a suit and tie (or a pant suit with a silk blouse), potential clients will trust us with their money, and give us more.

What if we all, as a society, decided that a suit does not automatically equal "worthy." I mean, you can point out countless examples of how wealthy, well-dressed businessmen and women have fucked up and screwed a lot of people out of money, sometimes intentionally. If we put out a country-wide announcement that said "Hey! From here on in, just wear what makes you feel good," then maybe we could all just look past the outer and get on with it.

Who am I kidding? We'd all just end up judging each other on the casual stuff anyway.

But can we at least get rid of the edict that JEANS are the devil, and that no one could possibly be professional while wearing them? An office of 5 total people, who receive essentially NO clients in that office, should just be able to say FUCK IT and wear whatever they feel best in. The fact that everyone in this office (of 5 damn people) still wears dress pants, dress shirts, ties and oxfords (or in my case, slacks and a non-tee) day-in and day-out is just DUMB.

Of the many things I am looking forward to this coming year, ditching business casual and embracing Adrienne Casual is close to the top of the list.

Mandatory slacks are lame. And do not help me do my job, in any way. I would be just as effective in my jeans and a casual top.

Blargh.

The Third Metric

Scanning my news feed this morning, I was drawn to an article on HuffPost regarding marriage, and some supposed magic decision you can make to change yours. Being engaged, I enjoy reading articles on marriage and relationships (I'm studying up!). Here's the article.

For those who don't feel like reading the whole thing, Meghan Telpner and Josh Gitalis, a married couple from Toronto, live a life that many here in America might find odd. Neither of them work in a corporate environment, and they prioritize their lives around what makes them feel healthy and happy, not necessarily what will make them the most money.

This article was categorized under "The Third Metric." Here's the blurb HuffPost includes on its page:

     "The current, male-dominated model of success -- which equates success with burnout, sleep deprivation, and driving ourselves into the ground -- isn't working for women, and it's not working for men, either. On June 6, Arianna Huffington and Mika Brzezinski hosted a conference called "The Third Metric: Redefining Success Beyond Money & Power,” bringing together women -- and a few good men -- to focus on redefining success to include well-being, wisdom, our ability to wonder and our ability to make a difference in the world."

I was instantly struck by how simple, and yet so CRAZY this idea is to our established way of thinking in the West. I know I've been taught and advised to always have a job, and to try to rise up both in rank and in salary as often as possible. I haven't been spectacularly successful in this endeavor, although I've been able to support myself (for the most part) independently for the last 9 years or so. I've jumped from job to job, industry to industry over the last few years, and as I've been examining myself this year, a shocking truth is starting to dawn: Maybe I'm just not cut out for this shit.

"This shit" being Corporate America, and the constant desire for advancement and RESULTS, regardless of what I might actually want to accomplish in my personal life.

Why do we feel the need to follow this pattern? What is it we think we'll gain from this lifestyle? Money, power, respect, love? Why do we automatically reach for our careers as a way to achieve these goals? Can these needs be met another way?

That is what I'm trying to do here. Reach for the good feelings FIRST, instead winding my way through my JOB as a circuitous way to get to Love and Contentment. Concentrating on what will make me feel fulfilled and purposeful, instead of what society might define as Success. Finding security through my own inner satisfaction instead of my bank account.

I'll let you know how it goes. :)